Be honest – does your husband really want to hear about your hair problems, the mom-cliques at
your kids’ school, or who got the
final rose on The Bachelorette? Probably not. But your BFF does! She’ll serve as a relief valve for your marriage — think Meredith and Cristina in Grey’s Anatomy, who call each other ‘my person.’
As Marter points out, “Men and women process life, emotions and relationships differently. Men like to problem-solve and make
decisions, but women like to
listen to details, talk things through and offer empathy. We have different menus of the kind of support we can provide, and it’s good for women to have the support of a husband and a BFF.”
It’s good for kids
By keeping tight bonds with girlfriends, you’ll give your children the gift of positive role models and adults who care about them
outside the family – the ‘it takes a village’ concept. They’ll grow up knowing the value of developing
a strong social network of healthy relationships to rely on in good times and bad. What’s more, a mom who enjoys the support and perspective of gal-pals will be a happier, less-stressed parent.
Call it a win-win all around!
your kids’ school, or who got the
final rose on The Bachelorette? Probably not. But your BFF does! She’ll serve as a relief valve for your marriage — think Meredith and Cristina in Grey’s Anatomy, who call each other ‘my person.’
As Marter points out, “Men and women process life, emotions and relationships differently. Men like to problem-solve and make
decisions, but women like to
listen to details, talk things through and offer empathy. We have different menus of the kind of support we can provide, and it’s good for women to have the support of a husband and a BFF.”
It’s good for kids
By keeping tight bonds with girlfriends, you’ll give your children the gift of positive role models and adults who care about them
outside the family – the ‘it takes a village’ concept. They’ll grow up knowing the value of developing
a strong social network of healthy relationships to rely on in good times and bad. What’s more, a mom who enjoys the support and perspective of gal-pals will be a happier, less-stressed parent.
Call it a win-win all around!
