Life Desk :
A research by Yale’s Center for Emotional Intelligence titled Coping with envy and Jealousy found that in life situations people can use coping strategies like self-reliance, self-bolstering, and selective ignoring to deal with jealousy and envy. According to the report, the frequency of encountering jealousy-provoking situations has increased, which has upped the stress that people are experiencing. Feelings of envy can happen in domains of work, family, friendship and romance.
Magnitude of jealousy can vary and impact your emotional health.
With envy experiences on the rise, everyone should have coping mechanisms, as you shouldn’t let envy eat into your peacefulness.
Tip: You have to selectively ignore the feelings of envy for inner happiness.
We live in a highly exhibitionist society. Social media is part of our lives and we are on show to the world. When we see friends traveling to exotic locations, partying with family – envy rears its ugly head. Don’t be a comparison junkie. Judith Orloff in her book Emotional Freedom believes in not comparing yourself to others. Try not to feed into feeling “less than”. Yoko Ono says, “Transform jealousy to admiration, and what you admire will become part of your life.”
Tip: Deal with jealousy by mindfully using humility and avoiding comparisons, even if the person irritates you.
If you are envious, there is a medicine in Christianity (written by a saint). Focus on the thing, person or act (a particular sports, cinema, politics…..) you envy.
Tell the prayer “O Almighty… Read MoreGeorge Joseph
Self-reliant people don’t allow jealousy to overwhelm their lives. According to Parul Sehgal in her TEDtalk, “Jealousy is exhausting. It’s a hungry emotion.” Want a break from envy? Give your social networks a rest. Facebook updates, tweets, and Instagram posts tap into the power that make you jealous. Rebecca Lammersen’s article, ‘Don’t envy me’ went viral recently, “We have fallen prey to the delusion that everyone else’s life is happier than ours, more productive and even more valuable.
When we are lashed with status after status of overly exuberant tanned people doing yoga on white sand beaches and rock formations, pictures of new houses and cars, followed by feel-good quotes – we dismiss the in-between, the other 23 hours, 59 minutes and 59 seconds of daily life. We fall ill with the virus of illusion, infecting the mind with delusion, feeding our fever of jealousy.
We think everything else is better.” But the choice is ours: be jealous or rise above it all.
“We have fallen prey to the delusion that everyone else’s life is happier than ours, more productive and even more valuable. We fall ill with the virus of illusion, infecting the mind with delusion. We think everything else is better”
-TNN
